Get Rich Without Being a Bitch
The first time I dropped that line with a client…
I had no idea how it would be received.
I wasn’t trying to be provocative.
I was tapping into a VERY real dynamic that was silently undermining the “million dollar dreams” of SO many well-intentioned female business owners.
Let’s break it down:
This one is simple.
If you’re IN BUSINESS, you have money goals. Period.
They may feel uncomfortable to state them out loud.
You may still “play small'' or resist “taking up space” when others ask you about your goals.
But somewhere, deep down…
You want a richer life.
(and the impact and deep joy it would give you).
AND you don’t need to justify getting rich by giving it all away either.
Money is a tool for women to have more financial power.
You get to choose HOW you want to use it - whether it’s a down payment on a new house, a better education for your kids, a donation to a charity of your choice or a luxurious spa weekend because you’ve been working so damn hard AND you deserve it!
And you want the right systems, structures and support that will make your business wildly profitable and highly sustainable.
“Without Being a Bitch”...
That’s the fascinating part – and the crux of the inner work (beliefs, mindsets, etc.) that inevitably come up when women start taking a stand for their wealth goals.
Unlike many of their male peers, far too many women business owners are held back by a series of negative (and self-sabotaging) beliefs.
- they don’t want to “let people down”.
- they find it difficult to set boundaries and expectations (and stick to them)
- they’re recovering “people pleasers” who tolerate far too much (from clients and team)
- they think they have to emulate men in order to get ahead
- money feels like a dirty word
In short, they want to GROW their business while keeping everyone (toxic clients, underperforming employees, spouses, etc.) happy. They put everyone before them — and then try to stuff away the toxic blend of guilt, shame and resentment that inevitably comes up.
I don’t know about you – but that’s an unsustainable level of pressure and burden to carry.
AND ironically it’s putting ourselves last that ends up making us feel highly resentful and downright bitchy!
I certainly know that used to be the case for me…
But then I learned that
Being well-boundaried is an act of self-love.
Being unwilling to allow others to overstep your boundaries doesn’t make you a bitch.
And having the highest standards in who you work with (aka who gets access to your attention, skill and creative energy) is something you’ve earned the right to maintain.
I’ll have far more to say on this topic in the coming weeks…
But for now, I'd love to hear your experience on the above.
Please share or comment below.
This is a REALLY IMPORTANT conversation for women that MUST change if we are to have real financial power.
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